It is a story of poor Mohammad Ahmad 45 years old tourist guide who is still unmarried. He told me about his love story and his love with some one but he cannot marry with her because he is poor and her father has many demands asbride groom has own home, good bank balance and car. But it is verydifficult for him to mange all these.He siad that Egyptian Marriage is very difficult for men. The customs of gulf countries are different from other western countries and that is the reason he is collecting money for his marriage.
He is working with a tourist agency and also drives a Taxi after his office time. He is making his bank balance gradually and looking reasonable apartment for starting his new married life. It is the tradition and Islamic custom that man can provide every thing to his life partnerwhen he got married. He also told me that the poor people andespecially poor can not marry cause of high demand from the girl’sfather and family. The high demands of the bride’s father is just toprotection and safeguard the material rights of his daughter and herfuture life. The poor class could not fulfill these demands and thefinancial issues are different from our culture. The real reason whyfamilies ask for lots of money and a house for the bride is simplythat men are untrustworthy ‘if taken only at face value,' and whenthey make financial commitments, they become more serious’.
Marriage was an expensive mater for Egyptian men. Most Egyptian menhas just one wife.According to him Egyptian weddings are mostly arranged and both thefamilies of bride and groom making inquires of the relative,colleagues, neighbors and friends as to the other’s status andaccomplish.He also told me that there is no age limit for marriage. Making yourhome in Cairo or any province of the Egypt is very difficult and bigtask for bride groom. Men perfer to to find a foreigner life partner like European or western girls because they have not any special demands.
I told him that why you do not sit with her father, explain anddiscuss what you have and that you will be willing to offer her thebest you can afford, and yes everything in Egypt is negotiable, eventhis issue. And if they turn you down because you can't afford somebricks in Cairo where cockroaches will have a blast while you're gone most of the year, then save yourself from the trouble and let them decide for the future of their daughter.
He said that he loves her too much and he can not live without her. He said that he has many beautiful dreams with her but the financial barrier doesnot allow him to fulfill his dreams. He told me that he often went on date with her at any coffee shop or parks but he want to live a happy married life with her.I could not help him because this issue is very critical. I was very dishearten to meet and heard his love story. He was struggling for eight years to get his love. In our country marriage is not such a difficult task for man but unfortunately it is a hard task for girls and her families, they face many difficulties for this social marriage contract.I hope that he will get marry with his beloved after tough, hardstruggle and fulfill the demand of her’s father to give her all basicsocial rights.
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